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May 31, 1999

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1.0††††††††††† TRES DIAS

1.1††††††††††† Tres Dias: The Essential, The Important, The Accidental ††††††††††† 8

1.2††††††††††† Tres Dias Vocabulary ††††††††††† 11

1.3††††††††††† The Essentials from Tres Dias International ††††††††††† 14

2.0††††††††††† THE WEEKEND

2.1††††††††††† Outline ††††††††††† 22

2.2††††††††††† Relationship Among The Talks ††††††††††† 27

2.3††††††††††† Structure of Tres Dias ††††††††††† 29

2.4††††††††††† Dynamics of Tres Dias ††††††††††† 36

2.5††††††††††† Table Names ††††††††††† 44

3.0††††††††††† TEAM GUIDELINES

3.1††††††††††† Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, Nobody ††††††††††† 44

3.2††††††††††† Basic Rules††††††††††† 45

3.3††††††††††† General Team Guidelines ††††††††††† 45

3.4††††††††††† Joy is for Living Ė Life is for Loving Ė Love is Forgiving ††††††††††† 50

4.0††††††††††† ROLLOS

4.1††††††††††† Planning a Rollo ††††††††††† 53

4.2††††††††††† Preparing a Rollo ††††††††††† 53

4.3††††††††††† Giving a Rollo ††††††††††† 55

4.4††††††††††† Discussing a Rollo ††††††††††† 55

4.5††††††††††† Prayer Palanca for a Rollo ††††††††††† 59

4.6††††††††††† Critique of Practice Rollo††††††††††† 61

5.0††††††††††† CHAS

5.1††††††††††† Types and Responsibilities ††††††††††† 64

5.2††††††††††† Set-up Needs ††††††††††† 66

5.3††††††††††† Procedures ††††††††††† 68


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ďMy TaskĒ

"Master, where shall I work today?"

And my love flowed warm and free.

He pointed out a tiny plot and said,

"Tend this for me".

I answered quickly,

"Oh no, not there."

Not anyone could see how well

My task was done.

Not that little place for me.

And His voice when He spoke,

It was not stern,

But He answered me tenderly,

"Little one, search that heart of Thine,

Are you working for them or me.

Nazareth was just a little place,

And so was Galilee".

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Donít be fooled by me. Donít be fooled by the face I wear.

For I wear a thousand masks, masks that Iím afraid to take off

and none of them are me.

Pretending is an art thatís second nature with me,

But donít be fooled,ĖFor Godís sake donít be fooled.

I give the impression that Iím secure, that all is sunny and

unruffled with me, within as well as without.

That confidence is my name and coolness is my game;

That the waterís calm and Iím in command, and that I need no one.

But donít believe me. Please.

My surface may seem smooth, but my surface is my mask.

Beneath this lies no complacence.

Beneath dwells the real me in confusion, in fear, and aloneness.

But I hide this. I donít want anybody to know it.

I panic at the thought of my weakness and fear of being exposed.

Thatís why I frantically create a mask to hide behind; a non-chalant, sophisticated

facade, to help me pretend, to shield me from the glance that knows.

But such a glance is precisely my salvation. My only salvation, and I know it.

That is if itís followed by acceptance, if itís followed by love.

Itís the only thing that will assure me of what I canít assure myself;

That I am worth something.††††††††††††††† (continued on next page)

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But I donít tell you this. I donít dare. Iím afraid to.

Iím afraid your glance will not be followed by acceptance and love.

Iím afraid youíll think less of me, that youíll laugh at me,

and your laugh would kill me.

Iím afraid that deep down Iím nothing, that Iím no good,

and that you will see this and reject me.

So I play my game, my desperate game, with a facade of assurance without,

and a trembling child within.

And so begins the parade of masks. And my life becomes a front.

I idly chatter to you in the suave tones of surface talk.

I tell you everything that is really nothing,

and nothing of whatís everything, of whatís crying within me;

So when Iím going through my routine, do not be fooled by what Iím saying.

Please listen carefully and try to hear what Iím not saying.

What Iíd like to be able to say.

What for survival I need to say, but what I canít say.

I dislike hiding. Honestly! I dislike the superficial game Iím playing, the phony game.

Iíd really like to be genuine and spontaneous, and me, but youíve got to help me.

Youíve got to hold out your hand, even when thatís the last thing I seem to want.

Only you can wipe away from my eyes the blank stare of breathing death.

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Only you can call me into aliveness.

Each time youíre kind, and gentle, and encouraging.

Each time you try to understand because you really care.

My heart begins to grow wings, very small wings, very feeble wings, but wings.

With your sensitivity and sympathy, and your power of understanding, you can

breathe life into me. I want you to know that.

I want you to know how important you are to me.

How you can be the creator of the person that is me, if you choose to.

Please choose to. You alone can break down the wall behind which I tremble,

you alone can remove my mask.

You alone can release me from my shadow-world of panic and uncertainty,

from my lonely person. Do not pass me by.

PleaseÖdo not pass me by. It will not be easy for you.

A long conviction of worthlessness builds strong walls.

The nearer you approach me, the blinder I strike back.

I fight against the very thing I cry out for;

But I am told that love is stronger than walls, and in this lies my hope.

Please try to beat down those walls with firm hands,

but with gentle hands for a child is very sensitive.

Who am I, you may wonder. I am someone you know very well.

For I am every man you meet, and I am every woman you meet.  -- Author Unknown

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1.1         Tres Dias:

The Essential, The Important,The Accidental

1.2†† Tres Dias Vocabulary

1.3†† The Essentials from Tres Dias International






1.                  That the Tres Dias weekend be an intensive three-day program.

2.                  That diversity (of environments and viewpoints) be found in planning the weekend itself and in forming the tables (Decurias)

3.                  That the team be ready to live the whole weekend.

4.                  That the weekend be held in a cloistered form.

5.                  That fidelity be maintained to the schedule, rollos, and meditations.

6.                  That the rollos be informal doctrinal talks of a witnessing or sharing nature, not conferences, speeches, or sermons.

7.                  That the freedom of self-determination of each candidate be respected.

8.                  That a friendly environment be created during the Tres Dias weekend.

9.                  That an environment of individual and collective piety be promoted.

10.              That both laymen and clergy remember to pay close attention to informal personal contact.

11.              That the team get together each evening to review the progress of the weekend and to plan the next dayís work.

12.              That the closing (Clausura) be prepared properly as the first sharing of the post-Tres Dias community.

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A.††††††††††† In relation to the Spiritual Directors:

1.      That they not interfere with the proper functioning of the Tres Dias weekend to fulfill other obligations or personal devotions.

2.      That he does not leave the Tres Dias, even for a moment

B.††††††††††† In relation to the Rector or Rectrix:

1.      That he work with the Spiritual Director as the person responsible for the Tres Dias.

2.      That he gives the Security in the Fourth Day rollo.

3.      That he maintain personal contact with each team member and candidate.

C.††††††††††† In relation to the other team members:

1.                  That they do not form segregated groups or cliques.

2.                  That they all be present during all phases of the weekend.

3.                  That they help with necessary tasks, such as waiting on tables, and that they do so very naturally.†††††††††††

4.                  That they make every effort to know the candidates by name.

5.                  That they try to create a gradual environment of animation in the weekend

6.                  That the night meetings not be unnecessarily prolonged.

7.                  That they meet as many candidates as possible a month or six weeks after the weekend.

 †††††††††† ††††††††††† D.††††††††††† In relation to the rollos:

1.      That they follow the ideas contained in the outlines. Personal testimonies are used to enhance and extend the outlines. The order of rollos must also be unchanged.

2.      That the length of each rollo be prudent Ė long enough to get the ideas across, but not unnecessarily prolonged.

3.      That the pre-arranged schedule of talks be kept faithfully.

4.      That the rollos emphasize the different phases of Tres Dias.

5.      That the essential slogans, comparisons, and other key ideas which are traditional in Tres Dias not be changed, giving due consideration to their importance in clarifying the main message.

6.      That rollistas not use ideas and comparisons which are a part of another rollo.

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E.††††††††††† In relation to the candidates:

1.                  That they are properly distributed in the Decurias (tables)

2.                  That they take notes and draw posters.

3.                  That they experience a group reunion before the weekend is over.

4.                  In relation to the various elements of the weekend:

5.                  That the different rooms be properly distributed.

6.                  That the weekend not begin at a late hour.

7.                  That the silence be kept until the end of the retreat period.

8.                  That everyone share in a daily liturgy.

9.                  That the application information be used as a means of sounding out the candidates.

10.              That the Palanca letters be read (most, if not all).

11.              That chapel visits by tables be made.

G.††††††††††† In relation to the closing (Clausura):

1.                  That only Pescadores and Cursillistas be allowed to attend.

2.                  That the rector aim the closing toward the proper objectives.


1.                  Who is secretary at each Decuria (table).

2.                  The number of people at each table (not to exceed 9).

3.                  The kind of jokes to be used, as long as discretion is maintained.

4.                  That a group photograph be taken.

5.                  That a Mananita (serenade) be held. 

The forgoing notes were adapted from "The Essential, The Important, and The Accidental" of the The Cursillo In Christianity by the Secretariat of Cursillo in Christianity in Spain.

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ABRAZO††††††††††††††††††† AH-BRA-ZO - Literally a hug; used to describe the traditional Christian greeting, the brotherly embrace

AGAPE†††††††††††††††††††††† AG-GA-PAY - A love feast or common meal of fellowship originating among the early Christians including prayers, songs and the reading of scripture. The love of God for man. Christian brotherly love in its highest manifestation. Celebrated as a common meal of worship in some Tres Dias weekends.

CANDIDATE††††††††††† CAN-DI-DATE - One who is making a Tres Dais weekend and will become a Pescadore.

CHA-CHA †††††††††††††††† Origin unknown. CHA-CHA A fast, rhythmic, Latin American dance. In Cursillo, the name given to those on the team to serve on their feet. There are kitchen Chas and Cha-Chas who are outside the kitchen. In Northern Tres Dias communities they are called Auxiliaries.

CLAUSURA†††††††††††††† CLAW-ZOO-RA - Literally, CLOSING. The end of the Tres Dias and the beginning of the Fourth Day. The melding together of the weekend community with the community at large.

CURSILLISTA†††††††† KUR-SEE-YEES-TA - One who has made a Cursillo.

CURSILLO††††††††††††††† KUR-SEE-YO - Abbreviation of Cursillo de Cristiandad, or "Short course in Christianity". The Cursillo movement which originated in Spain, is the basis of Tres Dias and explains the origin of all Spanish terms.

DE COLORES ††††††††††† DAY KO-LOR-RACE - Literally, "of colors". A traditional greeting in Cursillo and Tres Dias. An expression of great joy. Also the name of a song which has become the theme song of Cursillo and Tres Dias.

DECURIA††††††††††††††††† DAY-CURE-EE-YAH - A small discussion group (the table). Also the evening period on Tres Dias when rollo summaries and posters are presented.

FOURTH DAY††††††††††† FOURTH DAY - All the days of a Pescadoreís life after Tres Dias.

MANANITA††††††††††††† MANN-YAH-NEE-TA - Literally a little good morning. A serenade which is traditional in Cursillo and Tres Dias. In some Cursillo and Tres Dias weekends it is held early Sunday morning. Originated in Cursillo in the Philippines.

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PALANCA†††††††††††††††† PAH-LAHN-KA - Literally a lever. Equivalent to the American terms: "pull", "influence" and "clout". In Tres Dias, palanca is an expression of agape love through sacrifice, self-denial and self-giving.

PESCADORE††††††††††† PACE-KAH-DOOR - Literally a commercial fisherman (in contrast to sport fishing which is recreational). The name given to one who is making or has made a Tres Dias weekend. 

PROFESSOR†††††††††††† PRO-FESS-SORE - One who professes in an academic environment, a speaker, a teacher. The name given to one on a Tres Dias team whose job is to deliver a rollo. A "silent" professor is one who is a table leader as is a professor, but who does not deliver a rollo.

RECTOR†††††††††††††††††† WRECK-TORE - The person in charge of a Tres Dias team used in the academic sense rather than the clerical sense.

REUNION†††††††††††††††† REE-YOUN-YUN GROUP - A group of three to six who gather regularly to share in their Christian lives and to help one another persevere.

ROLLISTA††† ††††††††††† ROY-YEES-TAH - One who gives a rollo.

ROLLO††††††††††††††††††††† ROY-YO - Literally one who rolls along (as a log). Loosely translated as a long boring talk which seems to roll on and on forever. Numerous connotations. Used to describe the talks or lessons of the Tres Dias.

SECRETARIAT††††††††††† SECK-RA-TARY-AT - The group of elected officers of a Tres Dias community who coordinate and sponsor the weekend.

SECUELA††††††††††††††††† SEH-KWAY-LAH - Literally a sequel or continuation. The Tres Dias equivalent of the Ultreya.

SPIRITUAL†††††††††††††† SPIRITUAL DIRECTOR - Member of the Tres Dias weekend team who is a

DIRECTOR†† ††††††††††† clergyman as opposed to layman.

TRES DIAS†††††††††††††† TRACE DEE-YAHS - Literally Three Days. The name chosen for the non-Catholic Movement based on the Cursillo.

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ULTREYA††††††††††††††††† OL-TRAY-YAH - Expression meaning "onward" or "persevere". Used by those urging Spanish pilgrims. Used in the Cursillo movement to denote a periodic (e.g. monthly)gathering of all Cursillistas in a particular area. Sometimes called a reunion of group reunions.


††††††††††† ††††††††††† LETTER†††††† ††††††††††† ENGLISH†††† ††††††††††† SPANISH

††††††††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† A†††††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† AY†††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† AH

††††††††††††††††††††††† ††††††††††† E††††††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† EE†††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† AY

††††††††††††††††††††††† ††††††††††† I ††††††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† EYE†††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† EE

††††††††††††††††††††††† ††††††††††† O†††††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† OH††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† OH

††††††††††††††††††††††† ††††††††††† U†††††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† YOU††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† OO

††††††††††††††††††††††† ††††††††††† LL†††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† LL†††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† YY

††††††††††††††††††††††† ††††††††††† †††††††† ††††††††††††††††††††††† ††††††††††††††††††††††† ††††††††††† NEEYA (NY)


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1.0††††††††††† Preamble

The TRES DIAS Movement endeavors to bring Christians to a closer, more personal walk with their Lord Jesus Christ and encourage them to Christian leadership and Apostolic Action in their environments.

TRES DIAS is based on the principles, the method, and the teachings of the Roman Catholic Cursillo movement initially proposed by Bishop Juan Hervas, Eduardo Bonnin and their fellow Christians. Each candidate goes through three phases of the TRES DIAS movement: the pre-weekend, the three-day weekend and the Fourth Day. TRES DIAS is a Christian ecumenical movement. "The founders of the Cursillo movement saw a world of great need around them. They knew that the answer to the needs of the world had to be Christ and His Grace; but.they saw Christians who did not live for Christ, and they saw a church that was.ineffective and without life. They developed Cursillo to meet part of this problem: to provide any part of the church which was ready to undertake the formation of Christian life with all the people it needed -- people who would have the deep dedication to Christ and to bringing all peoples to Him -- people who would undertake a regular program of formation in Christianity, and who would make their Christian life conscious and vital -- people who would understand how to be part of a unified apostolic effort."≤

The main teaching of TRES DIAS is God's unqualified love for each of us through grace. It asks each member of the TRES DIAS community to grow in their personal piety, to study God's Word and other Christian writings and to express their love for Christ in Christian Apostolic Action.

These three aspects of Christian growth are stressed in the cloistered environment called, "the weekend." An invitation is issued during the weekend for each Pescadore to join a small group of his/her own choosing for continued support, prayer and encouragement.

In order to ensure consistency and stability within the TRES DIAS Movement, there must be certain essential aspects to which all TRES DIAS organizations conform. These Essentials fall into two categories: those which are quantitative and those which are qualitative in nature. It is the intent of TRES DIAS to use both of these categories as criteria for chartering local secretariats.

It should therefore be the policy of local secretariats to comply with these Essentials. Policies of local secretariats which deviate from these Essentials must be reviewed on an individual basis and are subject to the approval of TRES DIAS.

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2.0†††††† The Essentials of the Movement

1. TRES DIAS is a Christian movement. The ultimate objective of the TRES DIAS Movement is to strengthen and extend the Body of Christ. No TRES DIAS organization shall change the teachings or practices of the TRES DIAS Movement to accommodate the participation of non-christians.

(For the purpose of these Essentials, "Christian" is intended to refer to those who are seeking a closer relationship with Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior.)

2. TRES DIAS is a Christian ecumenical movement.

All TRES DIAS organizations shall actively seek the participation of persons from all the Christian denominations in their environment.

All TRES DIAS organizations shall stress those things which the Christian denominations have in common and respect those things which are different.

All TRES DIAS organizations have the duty and the authority to protect the TRES DIAS ecumenical structure.

3. TRES DIAS is a lay led movement.

TRES DIAS is a lay led movement; however, the active participation of the clergy is both essential and to be encouraged.

4. TRES DIAS is a non-profit movement.

TRES DIAS organizations should pursue prudent fiscal policies. They shall avoid accumulating assets beyond what is required to carry out their part in the TRES DIAS Movement.

5. The TRES DIAS Movement shall not assume the role of a denomination.

TRES DIAS is not a church-substitute; rather, it encourages Christians to worship and serve in their home congregations, as leaders.

6. TRES DIAS is not a service organization.

The TRES DIAS movement encourages Pescadores to participate in "worthy projects."

TRES DIAS organizations shall limit their activities to those related to carrying out the TRES DIAS method.

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3.0†††††† The Essentials of the TRES DIAS Method

1.†††††††† The three sequential phases of an individual's involvement shall be: The Pre-weekend phase, The Weekend phase and the Fourth Day phase.

2.†††††††† The objective of the Pre-weekend phase is to prepare individuals for participation in the Weekend.

3.†††††††† The purpose of the Weekend, in terms of the method, is to prepare individuals for effective participation in the Fourth Day.

3.1†††††† The Essentials of the Pre-Weekend Phase

1.†††††††† That the candidate be sponsored for participation in all phases of the TRES DIAS Movement, rather than just the Weekend.

2.†††††††† That candidates be sponsored by a member of a chartered TRES DIAS community or a similar community approved by TRES DIAS.

3.                  That candidates have a desire for a closer relationship with Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior.

4.††††††††††† That candidates be accepted from all Christian denominations.

5.†††††††† That candidates be at least 21 years of age. However, if a local secretariat, using its best judgment, finds a sound and compelling reason (such as spouse of a pescadore, or military personnel), it OCCASIONALLY, on a case by case basis, may accept a candidate who is at least 18 years of age.

6.†††††††† That candidates have not previously made a TRES DIAS weekend or a similar experience recognized as equivalent by TRES DIAS.

3.2†††††† The Essentials of the Weekend Phase

1.†††††††† That the weekend have the following characteristics:

A.††††††††††† It is a weekend of living in Christian community involving a combination of carefully developed activities and teachings which are meant to lead to a fuller personal commitment to Christ.

B.††††††††††† It embodies personal witness, but it is not a revival meeting.

C.††††††††††† It employs group dynamics, but it is neither sensitivity training nor group therapy.

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D.††††††††††† It employs theological instruction that encourages the candidate to study his/her own Christian beliefs, but it is not a course in doctrine.

E.††††††††††† It includes a period of silent introspection, but it is not a retreat.

F.††††††††††† It is a renewal experience for Christians and is not necessarily a conversion experience.

G.                 It asks for basic faith, openness and a seeking attitude on the part of the candidate, but involves a great amount of dedication, prayer and careful planning on the part of the team.

H.                 It is an encounter with the Holy Spirit. However, TRES DIAS is not a "charismatic" movement.

I.††††††††††† The weekend is a tool of God, not an end in itself. The weekend will not produce a permanent effect without Fourth Day activity.

2.†††††††† That the Spiritual Directors be qualified to teach and counsel in spiritual matters.

3.†††††††† That at least one of the Spiritual Directors on the Weekend be ordained and be authorized to regularly celebrate Holy Communion by his/her denomination.

For the purpose of these Essentials, "clergy" is intended to refer to those persons qualified to serve as Spiritual Directors.

4.†††††††† That men and women attend separate weekends. The Spiritual Directors are exempted.

5. ††††††††††† That team members represent a spectrum of Christian denominations.

6. ††††††† That team members have previously made either a TRES DIAS Weekend or a similar experience recognized by TRES DIAS.

7. ††††††† That the Rector be a lay person and be responsible for all aspects of the weekend, under the authority of the local sponsoring secretariat.

8. ††††††† That the team meet prior to the weekend to: promote community, receive instruction on the dynamics and critique all the Rollos.

9. ††††††† That the TRES DIAS weekend be an intensive three-day program lasting approximately 72 continuous hours.

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10. ††††† That the team and candidates live in a cloistered environment for the entire weekend.

11.†††††† That lay-talks not be given by clergy, and Spiritual Director talks not be given by a lay person.

12.              That the weekend begin in the evening with the following agenda:

Introduction given by the Rector.

Start silent retreat to end after chapel the next morning KNOW THYSELF meditation, given by clergy

PRODIGAL SON meditation (or alternatively, on a womenís weekend, the Hosea-Gomer account as recorded in Hosea 1-3, or the account of the woman caught in adultery, as recorded in John 8:1-11), given by clergy

13.†††††† That the first day of the weekend have the following agenda:

THE THREE GLANCES OF CHRIST meditation, given by clergy

The IDEALS rollo, given by a lay person

The GRACE rollo, given by clergy

The CHURCH rollo, given by a lay person

The HOLY SPIRIT rollo, given by clergy

The PIETY rollo, given by a lay person.

14.†††††† That the second day of the weekend have the following agenda:

The FIGURE OF CHRIST meditation, given by clergy

The STUDY rollo, given by a lay person

The SACRAMENTS rollo, given by clergy, followed by Holy Communion

The ACTION rollo, given by a lay person

The OBSTACLES TO GRACE rollo, given by clergy

The LEADERS rollo, given by a lay person.

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15. ††††††††††† That chapel visits by each table occur the afternoon of the second day.

16.†††††† That the third day of the weekend have the following agenda:

CHRIST'S MESSAGE TO THE PESCADORES meditation, given by clergy

The ENVIRONMENTS rollo, given by a lay person

The LIFE IN GRACE rollo, given by clergy

The CHRISTIANITY COMMUNITY IN ACTION rollo, given by a lay person

The REUNION GROUPS rollo, given by a lay person

The FOURTH DAY rollo, given by a lay person

The Apostolic Hour

The Closing

17. ††††††††††† That chapel visits by each table occur the morning of the third day.

18. ††††††††††† That table discussion follow each rollo except the FOURTH DAY.

19. ††††† That all rollos and meditations follow the dynamics and outlines authorized by TRES DIAS.

20.†††††† That the team and candidates have the opportunity to celebrate Holy Communion each full day of the weekend.

21.†††††† That a diversity of environments and viewpoints must be attempted in planning the weekend itself and in forming the tables.

22.†††††† That the freedom of self-determination of each candidate be respected.

23.†††††† That the lay rollos be informal talks of a witnessing or sharing nature.

24. ††††† That a friendly creative Christian environment be developed and fostered during the TRES DIAS weekend, as opposed to a coercive or manipulative environment.

25. ††††† That the schedule allow time for informal personal contact among the team and candidates.

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26.††††††††††† That the Closing be as well prepared as other activities of the weekend.

27. ††††† That the sponsoring secretariat encourage the community to participate in the weekend through spiritual and service Palanca.

3.3†††††† The Essentials of the Fourth Day Phase

The Pre-weekend and Weekend phases are only a prelude to each individual's Fourth Day.

1. ††††††††††† Reunion Groups

A.     That local secretariats encourage Pescadores to participate in Reunion Groups.

B.††††† That local secretariats utilize the form of the reunion group known as "The Working Reunion Group," to carry out the activities of the TRES DIAS Movement.

2. ††††††††††† Secuelas

A.††††† That local secretariats sponsor regularly scheduled Secuelas; preferably at least once each month.

B.††††† That each Secuela include an opportunity for Pescadores to participate in the form of reunion group known as "The Floating Reunion Group."

C.††††† That each Secuela include a "Fourth Day Talk." The Essentials of the Local Secretariat Organization

The function of the local secretariat is to conduct an effective program in accordance with the TRES DIAS Method. 

That each local secretariat have a document, approved by its membership, describing its structure and operating procedures.

That the members of a local secretariat have completed a TRES DIAS weekend or a similar experience recognized by TRES DIAS.

All Pescadores of the TRES DIAS Community whom the local secretariat claims to represent must be eligible to serve as voting members and officers of the secretariat.

That the local secretariat have a plan for the periodic election of new members.

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The local secretariat must be the sole sponsor of a TRES DIAS weekend held in its community.

Each local secretariat must sponsor at least two TRES DIAS weekends a year. For the purpose of chartering, this requirement may be waived by TRES DIAS.

1. Although the three-days are referred to as "the weekend," the three days of the "TRES DIAS Weekend" need not include Saturday and/or Sunday. The "TRES DIAS Weekend" may be held on any three consecutive days of the week.


The Essentials of Tres Dias


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Copyright 1995 by Tres Dias, Inc.








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2.0†† The Weekend

2.1††††††† Outline

2.2††††††† Relationship Among the Talks

2.2††††††† Structure of Tres Dias

2.3††††††† Dynamics of Tres Dias

2.4††††††† Table Names



2.1††††††† OUTLINE


Prepare for Weekend

Receive and organize food

Clean Camp of Colors

Set-up equipment and supplies

Put up signs and window coverings

Prepare for Candidates

Complete Name tags, Name stickers, room assignments

Team Communion (Rector option)

Candidate registration Send-Off from a place designated by the North Georgia Tres Dias Secretariat.

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Reception/Fellowship Hour

Spiritual retreat, chapel visit and meditations


*Tres Dias is an answer to problems of the individual and the world.

*Three things required for Tres Dias - A spirit of:

óIdealism: attitude that great things are possible on this weekend.

óDedication: willingness to put forth an effort to make the weekend worthwhile

óLove (Charity): concern for each other and for God.

*Explain mechanics, rules, history, etc., of the weekend.


* Why are you here?

*Examination of past life



*God not only loves us and forgives us when we turn to Him, He even runs ahead and seeks our return.

Team meeting/Communion (Rector Option)



Continuation of silence, morning chapel, third meditation


*How the rich young man, Judas, and Peter responded to Christís glances.

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*Christ is looking at you - how will you respond?

Breakfast and jokes


Table assignments and introductions

IDEAL - ROLLO††††††††††† What is it to be a man/woman; the need for an ideal

GRACE - ROLLO††††††††††† Christian life is life in Godís Grace

Lunch and jokes

LAYMEN IN THE CHURCH Ė ROLLO††††††††††† Church is the connection between life in grace and the real world.

DIVINE AID AND THE HOLY SPIRIT Ė ROLLO God is ready at all times to help those in need.

Introduce Palanca

Chapel visit, meditation, and explain Prayer Palanca

PIETY - ROLLO††††††††††† The key talk of the first day; sums up preceding and provides witness of one who has responded positively to Christís glance, one who has chosen the Christian Ideal, (a Life in Grace).

Rector gives "Minerís Story"

Chapel visit

Dinner and Jokes

Decuria summary and poster presentations

Chapel visit

Team meeting


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Morning chapel, fourth meditation


*Emphasizes the here-and-now Christ, not the historical figure of two thousand years ago.

Breakfast and jokes

STUDY - ROLLO††††††††††† Need to know and means of learning how to live in Grace.

SACRAMENTS (Days in the Life of a Christian) Ė ROLLO††††††††††† Personal encounters with the Lord through the means which He instituted.

Chapel visit during and at the end

Lunch and jokes (kitchen skit)

Rector talk about prayer and table chapel visits

ACTION - ROLLO††††††††††† What to do in order to be pious.

Chapel visits by tables

OBSTACLES TO GRACE Ė ROLLO††††††††††† Avoiding the pitfalls to the life in Grace.

LEADERS Ė ROLLO††††††††††† The picture of the natural result of being a complete Christian.

Dinner and MaŮanita (Serenade)

Chapel visit

Decuria summary and poster presentation (may do skits vs. posters)

Chapel visit

Team meeting

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Morning chapel and fifth meditation.


*Christís instruction to "go forth and bear fruit".

*Maintain contact with Christ and with each other.

STUDY OF THE ENVIRONMENT - ROLLO††††††††††† The means of tackling the environment as a Christian.

Distribute Growth Guides

LIFE IN GRACE Ė ROLLO††††††††††† Life in Grace in the context of everyday living.

Discuss and complete Growth Guides

Lunch and Jokes

CHRISTIAN COMMUNITY IN ACTION††††††††††† Fits all the preceding talks together; explains life in Grace as a member of Christís body.

Dedication of Growth Guides

SECURITY IN THE FOURTH DAY††††††††††† Maintaining what has been found in Tres Dias via group reunions for perseverance as a Christian; with personal witness about the effects and problems of living as a Christian disciple.

Distribute Fourth Day packets

Distribute Palanca Letters

Receive Cross

Clausura (Closing)††††††††††† Pescadoreís Questions:††††††††††† 1. What did you gain from Tres Dias?

2. What does Christ mean to you now?

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Clergy Talks:

The first clergy talk, Grace, defines the Christian ideal to be the Life in Grace. It further defines Life in Grace to be a personal relationship with God.

The remaining clergy talks explore ways of maintaining and strengthening that relationship.

The Rollo Says that the Relationship is Maintained

Divine Aid and the Holy Spirit†† By help from God, and through our brothers.

Sacraments (Days in the Life††††††††††† Through union with Christ Himself, and through of a Christian)†††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† the special aids He instituted.

Obstacles to Grace††††††††††† Through prayer, denial of self, spiritual direction, to avoid the pitfalls of sin, the alternative to grace.

Life in Grace††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††† By making a specific commitment to pious practices, to study, to action, to growth in the relationship.

††††††††††† ††††††††††† Another way of looking at the clergy talks is to group them into talks concerned with living in grace and talks concerned with overcoming difficulties and barriers to a fuller life in Grace.



LIFE IN GRACE--------------------LIVING GRACE




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Lay Talks: Although the Fourth Day talk is usually given by a Layman, it is logically grouped with the clergy talks because it deals with overcoming obstacles to perseverance in the Life in Grace. This grouping leaves nine talks - three each day - To the "Lay Talks" category.

The talks of the first day are PERSONAL and INTROSPECTIVE, growing toward the third day talks, which are of a COMMUNAL nature.

The level of personal testimony, witnesses, and evangelism in each ta1k increases during each day. The first talk of each day is basically intellectual, and the final talk of each day is a personal witness talk.

The first talk of each day appeals to the mind, or intellect; the second to the will; and the third to the heart. Stated another way, the first talks deal with understanding, the second talks deal with commitment, and the third talks deal with love. The weekend must come to each candidate at all three levels.





First Day

Second Day

Third Day






Study of The Environment

A Little



A Lot




Laymen in The Church


Christian Community

In Action





Security in the Fourth Day


(Individual ------------------------------------- Community)

(Less Witness -------------------------------- More Witness)





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The relationships depicted in this chart are not absolute, but they indicate the trend of talks on the Tres Dias weekend. "Less witness" does not mean "no personal references", and "more witness" does not mean "forget the outline". The Piety talk is the first "heavy Witness" talk and therefore its witness is very important; however, the Leaders and "Total Security" talks will normally contain as much (or even more) personal witness than Piety. Study is a "head talk" like Ideal, but it can contain such things as introductory prayers and personal views on religion, which are normally excluded from ideal.

The talk outline identifies the points to be made in each talk, and the general approach to the talk; however, each talk must be a personal sharing between the rollista and each candidate, not a recitation. Therefore, the primary job of the rollista is to relate the talk outline to his own life, whether on an intellectual level (first talk) or on an emotional level (third talk), in such a way that the candidate understands what the subject of the talk means to the rollista.




Tres Dias (three days) is essentially a non-Catholic version of the Cursillo de Christiandad (short course in Christianity), which originated in Spain a number of years ago.

The founders of the Cursillo movement saw a world of great need around them. They knew that the answer to the needs of the world had to be Christ and His grace, but when they looked around them they saw Christians who did not live for Christ. They also saw a church that was organized to meet all possible needs, but still ineffective and without life. They developed Cursillo to meet part of this problem. In order to provide guidance to anyone who was a part of the church and who was ready to undertake the formation of the Christian life. This included men who would have a deep dedication to Christ and a desire to bringing all men to Him. These men would undertake a regular program of formation in Christianity; would make their Christian life conscious and vital and would understand how to be part of a united discipleship effort.

The Progression of Talks (Rollos):

Considering the progression of talks in the Tres Dias weekend is a way to bring out the structure and purpose of the outline of the weekend. Considering the weekend talk-by-talk pins some of the main ideas to their places in the weekend. It also shows

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a clearer picture of the actual flow of the weekend. Considering the main ideas topically is an approach to understanding some of the basis of Tres Dias, but it tends to obscure the process of developing ideas in the weekend itself.

There are several ways of bringing out the progression of talks, because they are interrelated in several ways. One obvious division is between the ministerís talks and the lay talks. The ministerís talks present the theology of living the life in grace, and the lay talks teach one how to live the life in grace as a layman.

Another division groups Ideal, Study, and Environment; Laymen in the Church, Action, and Christian Community; and Piety, Leaders, and Security in the Fourth Day. The first three deal with the intellect (understanding what it is to be a Christian), the second with the will (action of a disciple), and the last three with the heart (dedication to Christ and His work); that is, the three groupings are study, action, and piety. In line with this same grouping, Grace, Obstacles to Grace, and Security in the Fourth Day explain how to overcome difficulties to achieve a full life in grace. In short, there are several interrelationships among the talks, each of which illuminates a different aspect of the progression; however, the basic progression is by days. Each day of the weekend is an entity, and each is meant to do a different thing. The first day tells the candidate what he has to be, the second tells him what he must do, and the third day tells him what he needs and how he must act.

The Spiritual Retreat:

The spiritual retreat provides a setting for the talks. It announces that the Tres Dias weekend contains an answer to each candidateís problems (and, by implication, to all the problems of the world.) It places the candidate before Christ, emphasizing the need to respond to Christ all the way, to have full faith in Him; that is, he must listen to what Christ says, turn to Him, and do whatever He says.


The opening talks and the meditations consider both the person and his need of conversion, and Christ Himself. They start to sketch Christís character, especially His love. They stress the need for self-examination and full response; idealism built on the willingness to believe that something great is possible; and self-surrender or dedication-the willingness to put everything possible into Christís work in the spirit of charity, concern for God and for other men. From this point on, the candidate is never allowed to forget that he is face to face with Christ, who is looking at him and asking something of him, and that he has to respond to Christ fully and unreservedly.

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The First Day

The five talks of the first day are intended to present the ideal picture of the Christian living the life of grace. The first talk is Ideal, which asks the question of what it is to be a man. The answer is that a man is that being in all creation that lives by an ideal, which directs his life. The talk goes on to consider what an ideal is, and how it functions in a human life. At the end of the talk, the candidates are asked to confront their lives and really discover what their ideal is by asking themselves where their free time, their money, and their thoughts are directed. During the talk, most of the candidates will be telling themselves that their ideal is to be a Christian. At the end of the talk, they should be well on the road to learning what their true ideals are.

The second talk, Grace, presents the central idea of Tres Dias - life in grace. This is the Christian ideal, that to which God is calling all men, and the only truly human ideal. The talk presents life in grace as a gift, a reality that is the most valuable thing that a man can have. It describes the life in grace in a number of images, emphasizing how much good it does for those who accept it and explaining the various ways in which it is a personal relationship to God, the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Everything else in the weekend is based on this talk because it provides the key to human happiness for each man and for the whole world.

The third talk, Laymen in the Church, makes the connection between life in grace and the modern world. This connection is the church, which is the community of those who live in grace and the channel of grace and of salvation for the world. The Church is the means by which God has chosen to use to solve the worldís problems. It is the means of bringing Christ to the world. The world can be saved by bringing it to a life lived in grace. The candidate who began an ideal by understanding better what it means to be a man, and who was then told what a great thing he was called to be a saint. A man living in grace now is told that he is called to solve the problems of the world, to be a disciple, and that this too is what it means to be a Christian. The talk ends with a consideration of the relationship of the candidateís role as an active church member to the role of the church organization and leadership. If he is to fulfill his peat mission, the layman must work within the organized church, under the leadership of its chosen leaders. This talk presents the basis for the theory of action in Tres Dias.

The fourth talk, Divine Aid, outlines a simple theme: God is ready at all times to help those who need Him, and that everyone needs His help. The talk is situated after the two talks (Grace and Laymen in the Church) which explain what it is to be a Christian. Divine Aid says that being a Christian is possible, because God always helps when help is needed. All that each person has to do is to ask for Godís help and accept it when it comes. In short, there is no excuse for not doing what Christ is asking in the Tres Dias weekend. It is at the end of this talk that the first palanca letters are read, by means of which the candidates are made aware that others take the

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life in grace seriously. They get a glimpse into the lives of others who are living the life in grace, both by what the Christian community is doing as palanca and by what the letters say about the life in grace. They come to know that, even if they are too weak to ask for or accept Godís help, there is an army of people working and praying for them. It is an experience in community in order of grace.

The last talk of the day is Piety. It sums up the talks of the first day, and it presents the first basic step toward being a disciple. Every talk which follows it builds on this talk - in fact, every talk which follows is an explanation of it. This talk presents the response of the individual to who has been learned about what it means to be a Christian. Simply put, the response is actually to be a Christian, which involves living the Christian life fully and unreservedly, directing the whole of ones life to God. The talk lays bare various ways of avoiding this full dedication to God. Then, through the living testimony of the speaker, it presents the picture of what it means to be a Christian. If it is done simply, directly, and forcefully, this talk has a tremendous effect, because it makes each person confront his own life and the partialness of his response to Christ. Then, he realizes that he has a lot to learn about being a Christian, and, through the suggestions at the end of the talk, he sees that part of being a Christian is a life of prayer and a desire to bring others to Christ. Piety does not say how to direct oneís life to God, except in general terms. The things that must be done are talked about, but not explained. The explanations are for later talks.

The Second Day

The first day has left the candidates with a question: how do I become pious, how do I live the life in grace, how do I make this life, with all that is in it, my ideal? The second day is dedicated to showing how to do this in a practical way. The candidate is told that the solution is, first of all, to draw closer to Christ, coming to know Him as a person, following Him, doing what He commands, and being like Him. The second day is the day of Christ, the day in which the person of Christ is to be emphasized. What should also become clearer as the day progresses is that the mature follower of Christ is meant to be a leader. Like Christ Himself, he is meant to lead men to the life in grace. The message of the second day is that the candidate must form himself as a leader through piety treated primarily in connection with a sacramental life and informal prayer with Christ, study, action. Summed up, the message of the second day is the formation as a Christian leader through drawing closer to Christ and learning what Christ did. The opening meditation of the second day is particularly important for the progression of talks during this day. It presents the person of Christ as a person living here and now. Christ is actually among us, and He can be known by means of the gospels. He is a man who is with men now, and He is someone, who can be imitated, because He is a man in this regard, His role as a leader is drawn out. Christ is a leader of men, and the candidate will realize by the end of the day that he, too, must be a leader of men. Christ is a leader worthy to follow.

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The first talk of the day is Study, which is meant to give a badly needed explanation. The candidate by this time realizes that he must live in grace, but he lacks a concrete idea of what this means. The lesson of this talk is that one must use his head to learn how to live in grace, and that learning what to do as a Christian is, in fact, a never-ending task. This idea is first gotten across by explaining another aspect of the idea. of piety. Where the Piety talk stressed the direction of oneís whole life to God, the Study talk works toward the idea of piety as life. It is a special kind of life; therefore, all of life has to be remade. Consequently, it is necessary to study how to live as a Christian. The rest of the talk explains how to study in a way that makes the candidates feel a need of it. At the same time, it makes clear how study itself is a part of piety: kind of prayer, a means of becoming a saint and how it is directed toward action, because it is a formation for disciples in action.

The second talk of the day is SACRAMENTS (DAYS IN THE LIFE OF A CHRISTIAN) This is the talk which focuses on the most significant decision points in the life of a Christian. Emphasis is placed on the meaning of the Sacraments in every day living. Particular emphasis is placed on the reality of Christís love in the crucifixion. Thus a summary of the most significant days in the life of a Christian are shared by the spiritual director including the days of salvation, baptism, communion, discipleship, marriage, and even death. Personal sharing by the pastor helps the meaningfulness of these days to come alive.

The third talk is ACTION, which continues the explanation of what to do in order to be pious. The Piety talk said that the perfection of piety is Disciples in action. Without action, piety cannot stay alive. This talk must make this point very clearly, but it must make the reverse point just as strongly; action must come from piety. The Disciple must live the life in grace fully. Action is a means of bringing men to Christ, helping them to live the life in grace. This talk, like the study talk, is very practical. It explains how action has to be linked to piety. It starts the explanation of how a discipleís action is carried out by befriending a person and then trying to make him a friend of Christ. The bulk of the talk is actually an explanation of how to do it. It is only a limited explanation of action as a whole; more will be explained later. It presents the basis, though: personal contact with a concern for making others friends of Christ so that they to might function as leaders in forming a Christian life.

The fourth talk is OBSTACLES TO GRACE, which explains what will tend to draw Christians away from their ideal. It is intended to be realistic and explanatory; pointing out clearly what obstacles stand in the path and what must be done to avoid them. By showing what the alternative involved, it makes the life in grace appear more clearly. At the end of this talk, the candidates appreciate the meaning of life in grace, and some of the things they can do to live it: namely, prayer, avoiding occasions of sin, denial to self and spiritual direction.


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The fifth and last talk of the day, LEADERS, should make all the talks of the day fall into place. Like Piety, it presents the picture of the man who has done everything, which the talks of the day discussed. He has become a leader who knows Christ well and who follows Him. He has a Christian personality; a personality that is centered on a Christian axis and he is trying to become a saint. By being fully Christian, a person will become a leader because he will influence those around him, leading them to the life in grace. In character with all of the talks of the second day, this talk emphasizes formation. It cannot just be wished for. In summarizing the day and presenting a picture of the leader this talk also emphasizes how successful the things that have been presented during the day really are. This is the talk of the day, which is the most, inspiring because, like the piety talk, its message is: "This Works!"

The Third Day

The third day presents the method of Tres Dias and its approach to the Community of Disciples. What was presented during the first two days, although oriented to making clear the third day, includes nothing that is unique to Tres Dias. It is the third day, which presents the particular theory of the weekend.

The meditation of the third day, like that of the second day, has an integral role to play in the progression of the talks. The meditation is Christís message to the candidates. In the meditation, the pastor presents Christís call to the community. It is not the first time that the necessity of community has been talked about, but it is the first time that it is presented so dramatically as the command of Christ, the Christ who became known as friend during the second day. He sends the candidates out to bear fruit, which is the key to action. Contact with Christ and contact with other Christians is the message. Giving life to this message is the job of the talks of the third day. The enthusiasm in their presentation should make the final note of the meditation indelible: "Have courage; I have overcome the world". The first talk of the third day is STUDY of the ENVIRONMENT. This talk moves the leader of the second day out into the environment be has always lived in to take another look at it now that he understands life in grace more clearly, and tries to lead him to an understanding of what he has to do it. A major part of the talk is a consideration of the environment from only one point of view: the relation of people in it to God and to the life in grace. All the problems of the environment are not considered, but only those which involve a personís relation to a living piety. The talk is meant to explain how the candidate has to understand the situations he will find himself in, in terms of their relationships to God. The talk also explains what must be done by the candidate to enable him to work effectively in the environment, and to bring others to Christ. It restates the method presented in Action, but it also adds to the method of action by pointing out the need to deal with the environment as a whole, together with the situations in the environment. At the end of this talk, the candidate should have a clear idea of the problems and of what he must do. He should also feel the need of help to do it.

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The second talk of the third day is LIFE IN GRACE. This talk presents the idea of the service sheet, the plan for structuring oneís life in such a way that one can understand what must be done and how to do it. However, the main point of the talk is the first part of the secret of a discipleís action; contact with Christ. In this talk, the pastor explains very carefully the particular things, which directly help toward a full piety. The other two parts of the service sheet, study and action are not worked out in the weekend, because they must be related directly to the work that the candidate will do after the weekend. In other words, this talk presents the first part of the means of tackling the environment.

The third talk of the day is CHRISTIAN COMMUNITY IN ACTION. This is the key talk of the third day; the talk, which should make clear how all the other talks, fit together. By the time this talk is reached, the candidate should have a clear picture of the need for community and of what kinds of things need to be done to bring people to a friendship with Christ, which is the basis for a transformation of society. He should also have a clear picture of the importance of being a living member of the Church. This talk should bring these two ideas together so that the candidate can see that the problem of the environment, the problem of remaking the world, can only be solved through formation of Christian life. The talk must first make clear that the idea of working on individuals to save them, and of working in organizations, are only partial solutions to the problem. Then, the full solution is presented the building of discipling Christian communities; groups of people living a full Christian and therefore discipleship life together. All groups of Christians (the family, the congregation, and the organizations for disciples) must function this way. A picture of how to structure Christian community is presented, with a treatment of the place of the minister as a leader of the Christian community in action, and with a picture of a group of men, working together to bring the world to Christ by spreading the Christian message. The talk concludes by vividly linking a discipleís action with the desire of Christ on the cross to save man. At the end of the talk, the candidates should feel the need to work with others, and they should feel the desire to make Christ known and loved in their environments.

The fourth and last talk is SECURITY IN THE FOURTH DAY. This is the talk in which the linking together of the leaders is accomplished. With the service sheet, it is the solution to the problem, which almost everyone feels; how to maintain what he or she has found in Tres Dias. This talk explains the group reunion, and how the candidates can work with a group of friends of their life in grace. It is the linkage with other Christian leaders, other Pescadores (Tres Dias alumni; literally, "fishermení), which provides the basis for forming Christian life. With Life in Grace, and Security in the Fourth Day the candidate is provided with a method, which each person needs to function as a. leader in a dynamic Christian community action. The talk specifically addresses the problems of perseverance as a leader in a vital Christian community. Like the talks on piety and leaders, this talk presents a picture of what a person is like who has learned the lessons of the third day; the pescadore, the man

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who makes use of the method and vision presented in the Tres Dias weekend. At this point in the weekend, there is nothing more to explain. All the methods and concepts have been presented, and the candidate is equipped, at least in a rough way, to become a pescadore. This talk deals with what still lies ahead of him; the things he is called to do, the problems to be avoided, and the application of the successful method which has been given to him in the weekend. The weekend should end with a triumphant picture of what it is to live in the truths learned in the weekend.




Role of the Team Member


Part I

What are we trying to achieve in Tres Dias? First, and foremost, we are trying to build a community ó a community abounding in love, joy, and peace. Then too, we are also trying to achieve an example of Christian life, especially in the three aspects of piety, study, and action.

To form this community, and to provide an example to the candidates of the Christian life, the team must itself be a community before the weekend of Tres Dias. On Thursday night, when the team arrives, it must be a formed community. This is done by means of a series of team meetings (usually eight) which are held weekly just before the weekend itself begins.

The team forms itself by discussing the talks, by sharing in the liturgy, and by making group reunions with each other (the team meetings are a form of group reunion). On Thursday night, the team members spread out among the candidates, and thus begin the formation of a larger community of the Tres Dias weekend. They do this in the same way as they formed the team. We have discussion, sharing in the liturgy and otherwise, and develop an understanding of each other. Our hope for the weekend is to evoke a commitment from each one of the candidates. This commitment doesnít involve Tres Dias as such, but rather a larger community - the outside world. The candidates will branch out into the world and have an effect on it. They will try to form the world in which they live into a Christian community. So, the team, which comes to Tres Dias on Thursday night, is the core of a new Christian community, which will be formed in the weekend.

The spiritual director of Tres Dias helps to form the team into a community before the weekend begins; but when he arrives on Thursday night, he devotes his attention to the

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candidates, and begins his task of bringing them together into a community. The spiritual director, like the other team members, is there for the candidates; therefore, it is very important that the team be well formed as a community before the weekend begins. There should be no team formation at the Tres Dias weekend. THE WEEKEND IS ALL FOR THE CANDIDATES.

If youíre like most pescadores (or cursillistas), you donít remember everything that happened in your weekend as a candidate, so a bit of review might help to give you an idea of what the team members should be doing. The weekend begins at the moment when the first candidate arrives on Thursday night -and thatís when the team memberís work begins. Team members should arrive early on Thursday, and should be present to greet the candidates as they arrive. The team creates a welcoming atmosphere, an atmosphere which suggests that this is a good place to be, regardless of the reasons the candidates might have for being there.

You will probably remember how apprehensive you were on Thursday night when you began your weekend as a candidate. Somebody, somewhere along the line, talked to you and helped you to feel like one of the group that night. This is the role of the team member on Thursday night! Draw the candidates in, and get to know them. Table assignments will be reviewed at the team meeting that night. Your major job as a team member is to get to know the candidates.

There are 4 major things to remember for Thursday night:

1.††††† Be friendly

2.††††† Do NOT hug ANYBODY

3.††††† Do NOT use Cursillo/Tres Dias terms

4.††††† Do NOT group up with other team members

At send-off, Sponsors arriving with their candidates will be directed to where to drop off the luggage. Names will be called out in the church for the candidates to go to the bus. Then the community will come out to the bus and sing "De Colores".

As the candidates arrive at the Camp of Colors, your work as a team member begins immediately. You start by doing the little things - the reception provides a community-building setting. Youíre eating and sharing with each other, and this draws people together. It is very important that you avoid congregating with other team members. Mingle with the candidates. Begin to get to know them.

Team members are always the leaders. In the prayers, the singing, moving from one place to another, answering the bell promptly -in all things, they are the leaders. They are to set an example that is always positive. BE IN YOUR ASSIGNED PLACE and be there ON TIME.

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On Thursday night, after the initial meeting, the spiritual retreat begins. To quote from the Cursillo Leadersí Manual, "The aim of the spiritual retreat is to awaken the moral conscience of the cursillista and make him feel the desire to be in Godís grace as a result of careful self-examination." The idea of the retreat is to know yourself, to look into yourself, and to check up on your personal relationship with God.

The retreat is a very important part of the weekend. When the silence begins, we go to the chapel for the meditation, and then retire for the night. Team members must remember to set an example for the candidates during the silence! Donít be talking among yourselves. Be a leader in the retreat, as in other phases of the weekend.

On Thursday evening, there is a team meeting. Like all team meetings, it is held in strict

confidence - this is an extremely important point! At this meeting, final table assignments are made. Initial assignments will have been made on the basis of the contents of the applications; however, these assignments will often need to be adjusted after you have gotten to know the candidates a little.

The team meetings during the weekend are in the same spirit as the team meetings, which proceeded the weekend. You plan the following dayís activities, answer any questions, discuss any particular problems, and then you pray together. Itís usually a spontaneous prayer that closes the team meeting each night. Spontaneous prayer is a beautiful way of building community in the team and among the candidates.

After the Thursday night team meeting, there is not likely to be any problem in getting people to bed. Remember as you return to the dorm area to maintain the silence. It is probably appropriate at this point to mention the necessity of sleep during the weekend. The aim of the weekend is not to tire the candidates or to wear them down, and it is not good for team members to overextend themselves, either. Get as much sleep as you can! On the other hand, if someone is pouring his heart out to you at 1:00 in the morning, donít say, "Iím sorry, but Iíve got to go to bed." Sleep isnít that necessary. Stay with him as long as he needs you; but when the talk turns to baseball, sewing, skiing, or other incidental topics, then you can say, "I think itís time to get some sleep."

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Part II

Friday morning is a continuation of the retreat. When you arise, youíre still in silence and the team members are still the leaders. Set the pace for the candidates. The silence continues to bring them face to face with themselves.

The morning liturgy is subdued, probably much like what the candidates have been experiencing in their own weekly worship. The liturgy is subdued at this point so that it can grow with the community. As the team and candidates gradually form a community, the unity and love that is found can be expressed more fully in each dayís liturgy.

After the liturgy the silence is broken, and it is time for breakfast! At the breakfast table, get to know the person across from you, and the ones next to you. This is another chance to build community by getting to know each other a little better. Always try to sit with someone new at each meal.

Before finishing breakfast there is usually a time for telling jokes. Jokes are a great way for people to stand up and share themselves. It is wise for someone on the team to start so that a proper tone can be set. Jokes should be in good taste. They should NOT be unclean: sexually, religiously, racially, or ethnically.

After breakfast, the group picture is usually taken, listen to the Rector/Rectrixís instructions as to where to meet for the pictures. BE PROMPT! The role of the team members during free periods in the weekend is very important. The free periods give team members and candidates a chance to meet "eyeball to eyeball" on a one - to - one basis. Make yourself available to the candidate during this time - donít congregate with other team members in a corner somewhere to discuss talks, candidates, the weekend, or whatever. Get with the candidates, and talk to them.

At the first session in the morning the candidates introduce themselves along with the table leaders. They are then seated according to the table assignments made the previous night. Table leaders should concentrate on building community at the table at which they are seated. Community building starts at the table, but it will grow through the entire group later. The candidates are grouped at the tables according to diverse ages, occupations, denomination and any other factors that may help them to learn from one another in their discussions.

The Ideal talk is first. As is true of all laymenís talks (except Piety), Ideal should not last more than half an hour. This is because the dynamics of the weekend donít necessarily go on when the professor is speaking. For the most part, the community building occurs during the table discussions. Candidates share ideas, and build upon one anotherís ideas. Very often, what the candidates say to one another is more important to the group than what was said by the professor. Thus, it really isnít necessary to give a long talk. If the Rollista can say what

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he has to say in twenty minutes thatís just fine! We all reach a point of maximum effectiveness, at which we should summarize and quit before the talk begins to drag.

It is very important for table leaders to take notes during the talks. First of all, it is their task to set an example for the candidates, who should approach the weekend as a course in Christianity. Secondly, they may be asked to give the same talk in a future Tres Dias weekend. Thirdly, they will need notes for the table discussion and summaries.

As has been said before, the table discussions, which follow each talk, really build community. The table leader takes charge of the discussion, trying to guide the discussion along the theme of the talk by asking meaningful questions. If the candidates get off the track, he brings them back with a question like, "Well, what did the speaker really mean by this?", or, "I didnít quite get what he was saying at that point." As you mix with the candidates, practice the art of creative listening, regarding which Karl Kenninger says: "Listening is a magnetic and strange thing. Itís a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones that we move toward. When we are listened to it creates us, makes us unfold and expand. Ideas actually begin to grow within us and come to life. It makes people happy and free when they are listened to. When we listen to people there is an alternating current and this recharges us so that we never get tired of each other. We are constantly being recreated. Listen with affection to anyone who talks to you. Try to know them without your mind pressing against theirs, or arguing or changing the subject. Your attitude should be "tell me more". This person is showing me his soul. It is a little dry and meager and full of grinding talk. just now, but presently he will begin to think, not just automatically to talk. He will show his true self, then he will be wonderfully alive". A good way to stimulate discussion is to say to someone, "Boy, youíre really concerned about this, arenít you?" and then let him express himself. Ask questions, be interested, and listen to him. The aim of the discussions is to have each table member personalize for himself the main theme of the last talk. A group expression is then obtained in the summary and the poster. This is most effective when everyone is involved and participating in the discussion, the summary, and the poster. For the team members, the rule remains participate but donít dominate.

The Rector will ask each table to pick 2 persons per Rollo:

1.†††††††† To take notes on the discussion and prepare a summary of the discussion.

2.†††††††† To present a poster depicting the Rollo itself.

These assignments should rotate so that everyone including Team participates.

After the Rollo there will, be about 15 minutes for discussing the talk at each table, followed by 15 minutes for creating a picture poster on the Rollo.


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As a team member, remember to change places at each meal, try to get to know other candidates better. Try to talk about the events of the day, perhaps on specific talks or posters. Again, little acts of kindness at mealtime are very important.

Part III

On Friday afternoon we have the introduction of palanca, which is a very high point for many of the candidates. Up to this time, some of them probably hadnít gotten a thing out of the weekend. Now, all of a sudden, this palanca thing comes along, and they begin to realize that the Holy Spirit is alive, and that Heís working through other people. This will be a new experience for most of them, and it sometimes gets to them. We are not looking for a lot of emotion, but for a relaxed atmosphere. If you see someone who has a problem controlling his emotions, it may be best just to leave him alone.

The Cursillo Leadersí Manual states: "One of the main points of resistance in the cursillista will usually stem from his shying away from Ďtheir desire to convert meí. At this point in the weekend, the candidate does not want to be converted, so donít force him. Let the Spirit work. It is God, not you, who changes the lives of people. ("Man proposes, but God disposes." Proverbs 19:21, The Living Bible)

Up to this point on Friday the weekend is pretty well subdued, and weíre just trying to build community slowly. If we try to build it too fast, we could lose some of the candidates. We would like to have them all run at the same pace, and get to the finish line at the same time. We donít want to leave anybody behind on Sunday night; we want to have them all there, so we build community gradually. If thereís a person who is a little bit slow in reacting to the weekend, he may feel isolated and left out of the community. The more love, joy, and peace he sees around him, the more he may turn into himself and resist becoming a part of the group. The idea is to keep everyone in the community, to keep everyone moving at a rate that all can follow. In other words, the weekend should be geared to the slowest candidate, if this is at all possible. The safest way is to keep things subdued on Friday until after the PIETY talk.

The chapel visit after the PIETY talk brings out the seriousness of the weekend, in that the candidates are there, not just for a fun weekend, but to make a commitment to Christ. Commitment is the theme of the Chapel visit.

At supper on Friday night the kitchen will have a little entertainment. This kind of loosens everyone up a bit, and the weekend begins to take on a more lively spirit. When you get to the poster on Friday night, the whole group begins to experience a community feeling through the sharing, the applause, the laughing, and through each one relating to the group.

To this point, we were more concerned about creating community at the tables; but at the Friday evening decuria we begin to shape the whole community, involving each individual, not just in his table, but in the whole group. Your role is to be open to everyone that evening,

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to be charitable and encouraging, especially to those who are a little bit reluctant to get up and give the summary or talk about the poster. Whatever we do, we donít try to force them. If someone just doesnít want to do it, then let someone else do it. Maybe the reluctant one will come out of his shell on Saturday night.

If you are a table leader, also, try not to sound too experienced in giving a summary or an explanation of the poster. You know what the weekend is all about, but you must adjust yourself to acting like a candidate. But don't fake anything, whatever you do!

The worst thing that could happen to you as a team member would be just to play a role. Perhaps the most important thing you can do as a team member is just to be yourself.

After the evening session we have another team meeting. As was mentioned before, if youíre talking to a candidate about himself or some problem he has, stay with him; skip the team meeting. This is also a good time for the candidates to get some counseling from the pastors, who should be available at this time. The team members at each table should try to get together before the team meeting to discuss possible problems, the progress at their table or anything they might want to bring up at the team meeting. Extreme problems should be brought to the attention of the rector and the spiritual directors; donít try to handle them alone.

Part IV

On Saturday, the liturgy is a high point. It is blended in beautifully with the Sacraments (Days In The Life of a Christian) talk. Actually, the whole Tres Dias weekend is simply a preparation of the community to celebrate the liturgy. At this liturgy we introduce the abrazo (hug) as a form of peace greeting, a very legitimate expression of Christian love.

On Saturday afternoon, each table is asked to make a chapel visit. The important element in this is freedom. The candidates should know, by our words and our actions that they are free to express themselves as they feel. The dominant table leaders should start off the chapel visit with a prayer for the table: A "we" prayer as opposed to "me". Focus should be on the table community. It is usual to pass a cross around during the chapel visit; however, it should be explained to the candidates that they might pass it on without saying anything. Donít expect every detail of the weekend, or of the chapel visits, to work out as you think it should be. Remember that, for the candidates, everything is great!

Saturday night, as dinner draws to a close, the Ladies/Men will surprise the candidates with their Mananita (serenade). For many of the candidates this will be a time when "walls" come tumbling down. Often these emotional walls have been erected for years and their cracking is a wrenching experience. Many men/women will cry at this time, which can be a wonderful release of accumulated tensions. Others will want to, but will hold back the tears. That is okay. to. There is no "right" or proper response. God and the Holy Spirit meet each of us

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where WE are in a special individual way. Let them do their work in their way and in their time.

The Saturday night forgiveness chapel is also very powerful and often it is in this chapel that more "walls" come tumbling down. The Saturday night Decuria is a blast! Everyone is happy, after the Mananita following dinner. And it is hard to get people to bed. This is one reason for the chapel visits in a gentle way, it says, "This is the end of a perfect day."

On Sunday, there is a tendency for the spirit of the weekend to drag. People are tired, the mechanics of the growth guides arenít too exciting, the tight structure of the weekend is loosened, and the candidatesí thoughts turn back toward home. This is where we come in and take the lead again. Keep taking notes, keep the discussions going, and encourage the candidates. After the Life in Grace talk, help the candidates with their growth guides. It is a suggestion that they make a real commitment, but always something that they can live up to.

Encourage and guide the candidates toward making group reunions. Tell them how much it means to you - being sure, however, that it really does mean something to you, so you can be honest about it. The success of the weekend may be measured largely by the attendance of the candidates at group reunions. Tres Dias is only the first step; the real work of the Christian community goes on in the Fourth Day.

Sometimes, in the afternoon there is more free time for relaxation, when the spiritual director should be available to the candidates. Here again, there is a good chance to meet the candidates eyeball to eyeball. At this point, some may be worried that they havenít gotten the message, or they may be concerned about how theyíll be able to live up to their commitments. It may seem as if the whole weekend is falling apart. Well, donít panic, and donít worry if it seems that someone hasnít gotten the message. if someone appears to be still in his shell, just let him be. If a person hasnít opened himself to the community by this time, any attention or concern you show toward him will only turn him further inward.

At this point the Palanca Letters are delivered to the candidates which for many is an emotionally overwhelming experience. It is also the point at which many candidates may discover what the weekend is all about. If not, do not be concerned. God makes all things beautiful in His time.

Wait for closing, and just let the Holy Spirit work at His own pace. Some candidates will never respond, and some will respond only after the weekend is over; but we can never force a religious response from anyone. God always respects a personís freedom to love Him or not; how much more, then, must we respect each personís freedom to open himself to the Holy Spirit, to become part of the community, or not.

At the closing, the candidates begin to realize that they are part of a larger community of real, live Christians who really care about them. They see that living the Fourth Day is possible, because these people who came to the closing are living it.

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2.5††††††††† TABLE NAMES


MEN†††††††††††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† WOMEN

St. Paul†††††††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† Elizabeth

St. Peter††††††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† Esther

St. John†††††††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† Rachel

St. Luke††††††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† Rebekah

St. Mark†††††††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† Ruth

St. Matthew††† ††††††††††† ††††††††††† Sarah



3.1††††††† Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, Nobody

3.2††††††† Basic Rules

3.3††††††† General Team Guidelines

3.4†† Joy is for Living Ė Life is for Loving Ė Love is Forgiving 



 This is a story about four people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, and Nobody. There was an important job to be done and Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it. Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it. Somebody got angry with that, because it was Everybodyís job. Everybody thought Anybody

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could do it, but Nobody realized that Everybody wouldnít do it. It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody could have done.


3.2††††††††† BASIC RULES









 †† Serving on a Tres Dias team is perhaps the most unselfish giving of oneself in making the Tres Dias a success; for it involves the totality of self, mental, and physical. You have the opportunity to use all of Godís gifts in His service. Serving on this team will require your perseverance, stamina, intelligence and a great deal of empathy for the physical and spiritual needs of others: fellow team

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members as well as candidates. You will be pushed to the limits of exhaustion both physically and mentally and perhaps spiritually, but through you, God will work to touch and change the lives forever of those you serve. And these candidates in turn will go on to be used of God for the salvation of others. Your sacrifice will be for much gain; it will not go unnoticed by God or candidate, it is not a small thing that you are doing. Please, for His sake, do it very, very well.


Personal Equipment:

1.††††††††††† Your love and charity

2.††††††††††† Your forgiveness

3.††††††††††† Your patience

4.††††††††††† Your sense of humor

5.††††††††††† Your cooperation

6.††††††††††† Your obedience

7.††††††††††† Your compassion

8.††††††††††† Your commitment

9.††††††††††† Your trust

10.††††††††††† Your smile


Sleeping bag or equivalent bed roll (rooms have A/C and heat)


Bathroom articles

Towels and washcloth

Medicines if appropriate including dietary needs

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Writing (note) paper and pen


Comfortable shoes-especially for kitchen Chas and Cha-Chas

Casual dress including Sunday. Do NOT wear "dressy" clothing for Sunday-Candidates will be told not to bring theirs.

Professors are to "dress" for delivering their rollos:

Men-coat and tie, Women-suits, dresses, coordinates.

Your Cursillo/Tres Dias Cross

Your rollo



There is NO alcohol and NO smoking inside the front gate at the Camp of Colors. NO EXCEPTIONS! (Required by Camp of Colors and by Tres Dias of North Georgia)

No Jokes of a racial, ethnic, sexual nature



1.††††††††††† Be yourself and act natural for you.

2.††††††††††† Be honest with the candidates when asked questions, but donít volunteer information to them that isn't necessary to divulge.

3.††††††††††† Be a good attentive, sincere listener.

4.††††††††††† Be ON TIME and IN YOUR PLACE.

5.††††††††††† Do YOUR job and donít WORRY about anyone elseís job.

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6.††††††††††† Do NOT wear a watch. Do not look at a watch around the candidates (no sneakóaópeak).

7.††††††††††† Sit with candidates, walk with candidates, talk with candidates, not other team members.

8.††††††††††† Do not use Cursillo/Tres Dias terms before they have been introduced.

9.††††††††††† If you see ANY kind of a problem: personal, with another team member, with a candidate, with the facility: TELL THE RECTOR/RECTRIX.

10.††††††††††† Set a positive example at all functions.

11.††††††††††† Learn and use the candidateís names. Try to remember things about them: church, business, family, hobbies.

12.††††††††††† Do NOT use the Abrazo (hug) before Saturday morning chapel. Especially avoid using on Thursday evening.

13.  Before the weekend, learn the words to De Colores.

14.  Always wear your name tag and carry your Pilgrimís Guide.


1.††††††††††† Mix everything you serve with Grace and garnish with LOVE.

2.††††††††††† Make the most of opportunities to rest.

3.††††††††††† There is always more than one way to do anything: i.e., My Way, Your Way, The Bosses Way, and Our Way. Our Way is the Best Way; next best is the Bosses Way.

4.                  Keep any personal equipment and/or decorations separate from kitchen equipment.

5.                  Lock outside doors at bedtime.

6.                  Keep the kitchen decoration room neat and orderly.


1.††††††††††† The One you serve is Christ. The Candidates belong to Him. Serve them as you would Him.

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2.††††††††††† Treat Professors as candidates until theyíre "revealed".

3.††††††††††† Keep track of where Candidates are, but be INVISIBLE while doing it. Donít make them feel that theyíre being "herded"

4.††††††††††† Donít be overly concerned if Candidates want to get off by themselves. The weekend is designed for the Candidate to come face to face with himself before he can come face-to-face with Christ.

5.††††††††††† Donít wait to be told to do a job. If you see something that needs doing - do it!

6.††††††††††† Keep the Assistant Head Cha informed of any problems or potential problems. NO SURPRISES!

7.††††††††††† Study the Outline of the Weekend, the Dynamics and Structure so that you know whatís coming and can ANTICIPATE NEEDS. (Itís the Candidates who arenít supposed to Anticipate).

8.††††††††††† Be sure to let section head know where to find you at all times. Donít disappear.

9.††††††††††† Candidates should understand that there is NO SMOKING at the Camp of Colors during the weekend. They may be smokers who are sincerely trying to make it through the weekend without smoking. They may not make it, which is okay. BUT, anyone needing to smoke MUST be taken OFF of the property to the outside of the gate BEFORE smoking. Again, there must be NO EXCEPTIONS for person, place or time.

10.  Sponsors, community, serenaders, setóup crews, palanca deliverers, etc. need to be advised of NO SMOKING rule at SendóOff, Mananita, Closing, etc.

11.  Study the floor plans so that you know where things and places are located. Learn circuit breakers, light switches, fire extinguishers, and exits.


1.††††††††††† Be a Candidate. The more experience that you have the harder this will be. Also be yourself.

2.                  Be honest. If you are asked: "are you on the team?" or "have you been on a weekend before?" answer truthfully. Do not be deceitful or evasive, yet donít volunteer more than was asked. If you are asked:

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"are you giving a talk?" again, answer honestly Ďyes", but if asked "what is your talk called or what is it about" - ask the person to wait, "donít anticipate".

3.††††††††††† Follow the Rector's directions. Be first to sit down, stand up, in the chapel, to sing, to be quiet. Your example will be multiplied. If you are a minute late getting to your seat - 42 others may also be a minute late.

4.††††††††††† Take copious notes EVERY TALK including SUNDAY.

5.††††††††††† Appropriate Dress: Wear coat, tie, and dress (cross, is optional) when you give your Rollo.

6.††††††††††† Do NOT work on your Rollo on the weekend. Do NOT change your Rollo on the weekend.

7.††††††††††† Participate fully at your table. Do not try to avoid writing the summary, drawing on the poster, and presenting either one. You are a "candidate"

8.††††††††††† "Silent" professor is a figure of speech. Just be a normal candidate in your participation.

9.††††††††††† Get to know the candidates-quickly. Get them to talk.

10.††††††††††† Help to build "table identity", "table spirit", and "community".

11.††††††††††† Never leave your table unless the other professor is there. At least one of you should be present at all times.

12.††††††††††† Each day, but especially Friday and Saturday night, get together with your partner to briefly discuss your table before the team meeting. Advise Asst. Head Cha of problems early.

13.††††††††††† If you write Palanca to one candidate at your table ówrite to all candidates at your table. Avoid writing Palanca on the weekend.


3.4†††† JOY is for Living - LIFE is for Loving - LOVE is Forgiving



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Jesus the total servant - the person who does not consider the fact that he is a leader, teacher or speaker in his environment should determine his activity and input in the Tres Dias weekend. Like Christ in Philippians 2:6-7, he takes on the task of meeting one of our basic needs; the sustenance which allows life to continue. A lot of times the candidates never remember their names and they may take the service for granted without ever considering the hours and the work involved. How many people do you know in your church who only nod casually at the cross and never stop to consider the time and planning and LOVE represented in that symbol? You serve in LOVE and with LOVE, and that is a silent, powerful witness to those who are served. You have the perfect opportunity to show LOVE by serving with JOY.



Others 2nd

You last


Jesus the anticipator - people began to know and recognize Jesus personally because he looked at them; really looked at them and had the answers to their physical wants as well as basic needs. He not only fed them, He healed them and cast out demons and raised their children and brothers from the dead. It seemed that He knew their needs before they asked and had the answer waiting. The candidates canít help but respond to that quiet competence, that desire to supply each want. The reason is the same - Christ and Cha-Chas LOVE their Father and brothers. How could they be any other way? How could Christ have done anything but die on the cross? There were those who watched Him die who knew Him well and those who knew not at all. But no oneís life was ever the same because they saw Him that day. God bless you as you give yourselves in LOVE

Love ever gives



And ever stands

With open hands

And while it gives

It gives, and gives, and gives



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PROFESSORS - (speaking and silent)

Jesus the teacher and facilitator - Jesus not only told what to do (Please write this down), he told them how to do it (He in parables and personal behavior; we, by personal testimony and silent witness and direction). The people who were closely involved with Jesus often asked for explanations. The professor gently guides the candidates the same way He did; with love and with words the Father has given them to say. They donít analyze the candidate in their own head knowledge and prescribe a cure. They wait, as the disciples did, for the Holy Spirit to give them words to say. The professor's prime responsibility is Prayer to know His will.

He is an instrument of Godís Peace. They are Christís brothers, sent out by twos, to be teachers and witnesses. You each have the chance of a lifetime to show the candidates real Love by your living

As the world looks on, does it see love in

our lives as proof that we are indeed

Christí s disciples?


We should remember "there are no ĎSTARSí at Tres Dias". From the Spiritual Director to Kitchen to Cha Cha to Professor to Rector, every job is as important and as vital as another is. The Lord has chosen us for our particular job and to do it as well as we can is to bring praise to HIS name.

A Christian (team member) should be:

A mind through which Christ thinks,

A voice through which Christ speaks,

A heart through which Christ loves,

A hand through which Christ helps.


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The Tres Dias Community represents the abundance of Godís grace in Ephesians 5:20. Who could ever imagine how anyone could ever care enough to pray, work, sing, make goodies and banners and little joy gifts just because they wanted to?

God did, and so do we!


By this the watching world shall know that we serve God above:

His Spirit dwells within our hearts, and fills us with His Love.


God is Love ó God is Light ó God is Life

4.0††††††† ROLLOS

4.1Planning A Rollo

4.2Preparing A Rollo

4.3Giving A Rollo

1.               Discussing A Rollo

2.               Prayer Palanca for a Rollo

3.               Critique of Practice Rollo




 You must know:

A.†† The purpose of your talk and what it is supposed to accomplish.

B.†† Your plan for accomplishing this purpose.

C.†† How your plan accomplishes this purpose

D.†† The central theme of your talk.

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E.†† The major points of your talk. Try to think of your talk as if you were a candidate trying to take notes and provide as many concrete points as you can without making the talk a simple recitation of facts.

F.†† What you want the candidates to carry away with them from your talk. [You could write down on a separate sheet of paper all of the write downs from your talk.]

G.†† Prepare five discussion questions or thought provoking ideas, which the table leaders can use if they have a need to focus a rambling discussion on the main points of your rollo. (Note: these should be discussion QUESTIONS, not ANSWERS). When you give your talk at a team meeting, be sure all table leaders have a chance to write down these questions.

H.†† What do you plan to use as an attention grabbing opening and as an attention - focusing closing of your rollo?

I.†† How does your talk fit in with the other talks and with the talk outlines?

4.2††††††††† PREPARING A ROLLO

 1.†† Begin in prayer. Continue in prayer. End in prayer.

2.†† "Live" the rollo. You can do and be all things through Christ Jesus

3.††††† A good rollo must have real substance, not just a lot of generalities.

4.†† Serious study and research should go into the preparation of a rollo. Seek information and new ideas from ministers, teachers, laymen, books, essays, magazine articles, etc. Look for sources which are current and which are saying something related to your rollo. Review your notebook from your weekend. Read the commentaries of the other talks, especially those that are related to your talk.

5.††††† A rollo must provoke the candidates to think and to see things in a new light. Aim toward providing a new perspective on truth.

6.†† Use the buddy system. Spend some hours with others who have given the same rollo you are giving. Cross-fertilization of ideas is often helpful.

7.†† Keep your rollo within a meaningful spiritual framework.

7.      Try not to worry about speaking techniques; the important thing is to let the real you come through. There will almost certainly be a candidate who is a better

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speaker, better educated, more talented than you are, so donít try to impress the candidates with your skill, knowledge or talents. If you speak openly, honestly, and naturally about the subject of your talk you will be giving of yourself - and thatís what is important!

8.†† The talk outline gives you the theme of your rollo, but you must develop that theme in your own way. Canned talks are about as helpful as a tape recorder.

9.†† Give personal witness and/or Christian witness to the extent that is proper for your talk but donít force it. Above all, BE YOURSELF.

10.†† Bear in mind that the candidates will have a mixed degree of Christian awareness and formal education. Your talk must not be set too deep or too shallow. It must be able to be felt and understood by all.

11.†† There is an old axiom which says: "Tell them what youíre going to tell them, then tell them, and then tell them what youíve told them." This approach, used with a little bit of sophistication, can be quite effective, especially when you are using a key word or phrase which you want to be sure to get across. It also helps you to find several ways to make the same point.

12.†† Donít throw stones at the organized church.

13.†† Donít give the impression that the team members have all the answers and that the candidates are there to "get the message" from us. We must never be viewed as the "frozen chosen", some kind of elitist group. Write your talk out completely. Do NOT attempt to give a Rollo from an outline or notes only. If the talk isnít completely written, you will forget to make points, will miss continuity and will probably over-run your time. It is good to type your talk and double space for ease of reading. Use a highlighter to mark "write downs" and important points.


14.†† With the exceptions of PIETY (45 minutes), IDEAL (20minutes) and SACRAMENTS (one hour), Rollos should be 30 minutes in length.

15.†† Practice giving your talk out loud and standing up. This will help you to develop your pace, inflections, and timing. Practice eye contact as if the audience is there. Be sure to identify the "write-downs". It is highly advisable to tape record the practice so that you can hear yourself, time yourself and time write-downs. Once the talk is finished, listen to your tape as often as possible in your home, car, plane or office, etc.

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4.3††††††††††† GIVING THE ROLLO 

1.†† Begin in the Chapel with prayers of petition.

2.            Let the Holy Spirit "shoulder" your burdens. Release them to Him.

3.            Start with the Meditation on page 14 in the Pilgrimís Guide

4.††††† It is sometimes helpful to briefly outline your talk and then start. "Tell them what youíre going to say, then tell them".

5.†† Repeat write-downs slowly. Watch the slowest candidate and pace your time to him/her.

6.†† Periodically maintain eye-contact with audience by looking up from the talk.

7.†† Change your voice and facial expression according to what is being said.

8.†† Be natural. Be yourself.

9.†† Conclude in the Chapel with prayers of Thanks.

4.4††††††††††† DISCUSSING A ROLLO

 Your table group, at the beginning, will consist of up to eight individuals. As with any new group of people there will be a tendency for everyone to try to "size up" one another. Consequently, donít expect too much from the early Rollo discussions. It will take time for the table to come together. You can risk the desired outcome by trying to rush things or push someone faster than he is ready to go. Give God a chance to work at the table.

What usually happens after the Ideal Rollo has been given is that everyone at the table kind of looks at everyone else to see who is going to start. So, solve the problem and YOU are the one to begin. Open with a question that will require a statement as an answer, i.e. "What did you get out of that?" or " I donít think I understood what he was saying. Can you help me?"

As the ta1ks progress, be sure that everyone at the table is brought into the discussion. Some people wonít need help. Some will talk too much. Others will never respond unless YOU bring them in: "Charles, you seem deep in thought, what do you think?"

As a table leader you need to evaluate how things are going with each person, but you do not judge the person. You may have someone at a table who is truly behaving in an obnoxious way. You need to love that person and pray for that person (and yourself) more that anyone else. There is a danger that you may exclude someone at the table who is difficult to like.


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As much as you can, compliment each person who contributes something Ďto the discussion: "Jim, that was a really a good explanation", "John, I hadnít seen it that way. I appreciate your idea." "Bill, that was interesting". By doing this, you will be telling each person that their ideas are okay, they are on track and that you approve. The approval will help all of them to get bolder and offer even more thoughts. Everybody has thoughts and opinions on everything, the goal is to get them to express them. Remember that in order to give an opinion the person giving it is running the risk of being rejected and maybe even embarrassed by the group. Many people have never encountered anything but criticism and derision from family and friends whenever they have tried to express what they think or feel and so have adopted an attitude of "no more". If you find it difficult to see the value in what was offered, remember what you are really approving and reinforcing is the willingness to try and to risk.


Donít let silence at the table scare you. There is nothing wrong with some time to reflect before speaking. Also, silence can be a tool that you can use. Instead of leading off as usual with a question, just sit back and stare into your notebook and wait. People donít like silence. Itís very uncomfortable. Somebody will break the silence which is what you want to get the others talking.

Use your table partner. Ask your table partner leading questions as a way to get others into the conversation. You may want to say something that you know people will disagree with just to get different point of view or to get folks talking.

Above all, use your own personality. Donít try to be someone else.







Aggressive, argumentative personality. Basically insecure, unsure

Donít let person upset you. Try to find merit in one of his points. Express your agreement and move on.


Youíll find this person is usually one of four types: (1) an "eager beaver" (2) a showoff

(3) exceptionally well Informed and anxious to show it (4) just plain talkative

Wait till he takes a breath then thank him and refocus attention on the subject. Slow him down with a difficult question or "That's interesting; now Ďletís see what the group thinks."


May be bored, timid, superior, indifferent, insecure

Bored/Indifferent: Ask opinion to arouse interest Superior: Give respect for experience, ask him to share with us. Timid/insecure: Compliment him


Misinformed, doesnít understand topic, canít make himself understood

If confused, say "Now let me see If I have what you mean" and tactfully restate clearly. If misinformed, thank him and then ask for another comment on the same subject. This permits a member of the group to correct him. If opinion ask what others think.


Rub each other the wrong way. Too much emotion on a particular topic

Compliment both on their contribution and enthusiasm. Emphasize the points of disagreement. May want to question reason for strong feelings. Redirect attention to topic at hand. Involve others in discussion


May have trouble getting into main discussion. May be rude, bored, superior, indifferent

Direct a question at him by name to redirect attention. Direct a question at another person to whom he is speaking to break up the "party". Ask him by name to share his comments with all and assure him they would be of value and benefit. Remind others to hear what he has to say.




IDEAL††††††††††† What qualities are our greatest assets as humans?

When are we operating at our highest level of activity?

What things are worthwhile to us?

Are we happy with the choices we have made so far?

What is my/your goal or ideal in life?

LAYMEN††††††††††† The Church was founded to help men live their lives

††††††††††††††††††††††† according to Godís Plan

Today what things govern the way men live their lives? How can the Church regain or establish its influence over menís lives?

What is the place of an individual in the Church?

What can and should the individual do?†††††††††††

PIETY What is true piety?

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How does one go about acquiring it?

Note: In discussing "false piety, avoid personalities and judgments of people: Hate sin,

††††††††††††††††††††††† Love the sinner.

STUDY††††††††††† Why is study important?

What is the purpose of study?

What factors may be obstacles to us studying?

What things should be studied?

ACTION††††††††††† What is a Disciple? What is a Discipleís Action? How does it differ from "good works"?

Why do we need to act?

What kinds of action are there?

What kinds of preliminary plans are suggested to try to assure effective Discipleship in Action?

LEADERS††††††††††† Who or what is a leader? Is everyone a leader?

What special attributes does a Christian leader possess or need to develop?

ENVIRONMENT††††††††††† Where, What or Who is our environment?

How do we and should we work in it?

CHRISTIAN††††††††††† Importance of being part of a team of disciples

COMMUNITY††††††††††† Need for linkage and support with/from other disciples

How to avoid being a lone ranger

How do you see yourself in the church


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FOURTH††††††††††† What means are suggested to help persevere?

DAY††††††††††††††† What problems should we be looking for in 4th day?

Where can we get help to face and overcome problems?

How do we keep in touch with Christ?

How do we keep in touch with one another?




 Chapel Prayer Palanca is one of the greatest blessings you will receive at this Tres Dias weekend. You and at least one other person will go into the Chapel with the Professor and a Spiritual Director. The four of you will offer up short prayers for the Professor, the Rollo about to be given and the candidates who are about to hear it. The Professor and the Spiritual Director will leave for the Rollo Room. From the time they leave until they return to the Chapel, you and your brother will be in prayer for them.

Your prayer can be done in many ways. It really isnít important how you pray except that you are yourself. Do not try to be what you think someone else wants you to be. It is not how, what you do or say, but what your heart is pouring out. You may kneel, sit, lean on a bench or sit in a chair or on the floor - whatever is comfortable for you. There is no "right" or "wrong" way. You donít have to be in physical pain for the Lord to hear your petitions. You may even want to pray and walk around the room as one person with a painful back condition did. You may pray both aloud, first one and then the other praying or you may pray silently or a mixture of the two.

There will be a poster set up in the Chapel with the names of everyone sitting at each table, a list of candidates and team as well as a poster of the prayer wheel, which shows who is praying in the Tres Dias Community and at what times they are praying. You may look at it and pray for certain candidates or tables or team members or whatever the Holy Spirit directs and leads. Praying with a brother and feeling the Holy Spiritís presence provides you with a fantastic time communing with God, speaking to Him about the weekend and allowing Him to speak with you. You will develop a common bond with your Palanca brother that you canít believe. Before you know it your time will be up and the Rollista and the Spiritual Director will return. You will have a prayer of Thanksgiving, giving thanks to God for the professor and the Lordís message through the Rollo and then close with a prayer from the Spiritual Director.

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During the team meetings each speaking professor will present his/her rollo as a means of practicing their talk prior to the weekend. This "practice rollo" will be heard by part or all of the team, and the team members will provide written feedback on the rollo which they have heard. This feed back is not intended to be criticism, but a means of providing suggestions for improving and fine-tuning the talk and the delivery of the talk to ensure that the message of each rollo comes across clearly and concisely. Such feedback will be provided on "Critique Sheets", two examples of which are included in this book. The Rector may use either of these two sheets or a combination of both to obtain the teamís feedback.

The feedback provided by the team on these sheets is confidential. No one but the Rector will read the comments on the sheets. The Rector will compile all the suggestions made by the team members and will summarize the suggestions in a call to the professor in the days following the practice rollo.

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START TIME: _____________FINISH TIME: ________ TALK TIME: _________







6.†††††††† DID THE TALK GO: (1) TOO FAST? (2) TOO SLOW? (3) JUST RIGHT?



8.                  WHAT ABOUT THE SPEAKERS: VOICE? __________ HANDS? ________

EYES? _________ EXPRESSION? _________




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 ROLLISTA _________________________ROLLO________________________


1.                  DOES THE TALK GLORIFY THE LORD?

††††††††††† HOW?



††††††††††† WHY?














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5.0††††† CHAS

5.1.††† Types and Responsibilities

5.2†††† Set-up Needs

5.3†††† Procedures


5.0††††††††† CHAS


Professors give talks and lead table discussions. Kitchen Chas cook and serve meals and clean their area and equipment. Everything else is done by a CHA-CHA. This list is not intended to be absolutely complete, but it intended to cover major items and stimulate thought about others.


1.†††††††† Organize and maintain chapel supplies and materials.

2.†††††††† Set up chapel chairs and alter for each chapel visit according to plan by Rector/Spiritual Director

3.†††††††† Keep chapels clean.

4.†††††††† Set up auxiliary chapel for prayer palanca teams.

5.†††††††† Maintain silence in chapel area at all times.


1.†††††††† Receives palanca letters and sorts into individual boxes. Checks to make sure family letters are there.

2.†††††††† Hangs banners

3.†††††††† Collects and distributes other palanca as the occasion calls for.


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1.†††††††† Organizes rollo room supplies and distributes as needed.

2.†††††††† Cleans rollo room each day and empties trash.

3.†††††††† Straightens tables when Table Cha not available.

4.†††††††† Gets banner ready for picture

5.†††††††† Turns on the cross on hill


1.†††††††† Serves table, supplies, drinks, whatever is needed.

2.†††††††† Becomes a "member" of table community

3.†††††††† Straightens tables whenever possible; particularly when group is away from table for meals, chapel, etc.

4.†††††††† Tapes up posters during decuria.


1.†††††††† "Pull" rollista out to get dressed and take to chapel

2.†††††††† "Pull" Spiritual Director for rollista prayer

3.†††††††† "Pull" prayer palanca chas for chapel.


1.†††††††† Cleanup in dormitory rooms, hallways and all bathrooms, replenish bathroom supplies.

2.†††††††† Guide candidates to dorm bathrooms during breaks


1                    Stock and prepare the refreshments for the Table Chas.

2                    Makes coffee for rollo room and prepares drinks

3                    Runs errands

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4                    Fill in wherever is needed in other cha areas.

5                    Special medication cha for candidates


1.                  Prepares, cooks, cleans and decorates for all meals

2.                  Provides light entertainment

5.2†††† SET UP NEEDS


Open windows on Wednesday night to air out.

Wash down showers and wash basins

Install fresh toilet paper

Check for burned out light bulbs

Put up posters outside dorm room as to who is in room so that someone can be located quickly in an

emergency. Alternatively have a master roster which Head Cha keeps.

Check exits to make sure they are locked from outside.


Clean room.

Make sure large cross and chapel box are in the auxillary chapel or storage closet.

Set up folding chairs: 6 rows of 9 chairs with a center aisle in between chairs 5 and 6. Adding additional

chairs toward the back for team members for a total of at least 84 chairs.

Set up a table with a small lamp, and some water for the Rector and Spiritual Directors. There should be three chairs at the table (for the Head Cha, Rector and a Spiritual Director)


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as well as a row of chairs behind the table for the Chapel Chas and remaining Spiritual Directors.

Set up tape/CD player near corner for background music.

Set up "Way of the Cross" Cross.

Set up candles in cross.

Put out a box of matches or butane lighter by cross.

Put out "Everymanís Way of the Cross" Books on chairs.

Put out Thursday night liturgy sheets on chairs.

Check and store Chalice, Juice, basket, and napkin. Set up spotlight on cross (if applicable).

Set up auxiliary prayer chapel for rollo prayer palanca.


Clean as needed.

Set up a table in front of the room with tablecloth.

Set up lectern on table. Set up easel next to table.

Set up Tres Dias cross in front of lectern, bible, matches/butane lighter and candleholders on each side of the lectern.

Set up round tables with proper number of chairs around each. (Check with Rector Ė 54 chairs?)

Set up chairs at back of room along wall for team members.


Take inventory

Use for storage of miscellaneous supplies.

Check refrigerators. Store soft drinks.

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Set up tables for pouring drinks


Label team boxes

Organize room



Clean as needed.

Head and Assistant Head Kitchen receive and store food and supplies as they arrive on Thursday morning.

Wednesday evening test equipment (with Food Secretariat) to make sure everything is in working order.

Make sure Head Kitchen knows how to operate all of the equipment (Food Secretariat will demonstrate on Wednesday evening)

Locate utensils, pots, pans, etc.

Label anybodyís personal equipment.

Assign someone to call and remind team about the food for the reception.


5.3††††††††† PROCEDURES



Pre-weekend will be at sendoff with a master list to check candidates in. Candidate name tags will be at sendoff by 5:30pm.

Palanca Chas at sendoff to receive palanca and transport to camp.

Dorm Chas tag luggage and take the luggage to the bus. Tags should be color coordinated to the room the candidate has been assigned.

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Names are called out inside the church and candidates run outside where they get on the bus. The Community sings De Colores before they go.

The Community goes back inside the church for announcements and communion.

Rollo Room

Have TRES DIAS sign ready to put on easel.

Have Cursillo de Cristiandad sign ready to put on easel.

Have Pilgrim Guides ready to hand out.

Prepare to light rollo room candles for meditation

Extinguish rollo room candles before leaving for chapel.


Prepare to light candles on "Everymanís" cross.


Pickup "Everymanís Way of the Cross" books.

Team Meeting

Finalize table arrangements and finish Auxillary Chapel poster with tables and names.

Rollo Room

Set up tables and chairs



Set out communion elements

All Chas

Guide candidates to chapel


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Start background tape-play while people arrive for chapel

After chapel, clean chalice, store material

Put table seating poster in Auxillary Chapel.

Rollo Room

Have notebooks and pens ready to hand out

Have wooded table names ready to put on tables

Have ROLLO sign ready to put on easel

Have DECURIA sign ready to put on easel

Rollo Room

IDEAL rollista leaves to get dressed as soon as the first table reintroduces themselves. Prayer palanca team goes to chapel.

Prepare to light candles for IDEAL

GRACE rollista leaves to get dressed.

Discussion and poster on IDEAL. Make sure that no one is left in chapel or dorm.

GRACE rollista and prayer palanca team to chapel.

Prepare to light candles for GRACE.

LAYMEN rollista leave lunch early to get dressed. Get prayer palanca team and go to chapel.

Prepare to light candles for LAYMEN.

DIVINE AID rollista leaves to get dressed. Prayer palanca team go to chapel

Have PALANCA Sign ready to put on easel

Prepare to light candles for Divine Aid


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Ready chapel and lights for visit following DIVINE AID.

PIETY rollista leaves to get dressed. Prayer palanca team to chapel.

Use the front of the Chapel with the prayer wheel and table seating posters in place.

Rollo Room

Put stool on easel with the leg under the lectern.

Prepare to light candles for PIETY.


Ready chapel and lights for visit following PIETY

Rollo Room

Have thumb tacks ready to put up posters during DECURIA


Ready chapel for visit following DECURIA

Rollo Room

Clean and straighten up for Saturday



Set out communion service element.

SATURDAY (continued)


Set up coffee urn and start

All Chas

Guide candidates/team to chapel

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Start background tape - play while people arrive for chapel

After chapel, clean chalice, store material

Prepare chapel for visit during Days in the Life rollo.

STUDY rollista leaves to get dressed and prayer palanca team goes to chapel.

Rollo Room

Put stool on easel with the leg under the lectern.

Prepare to light candles for STUDY.

SACRAMENTS (DAYS IN THE LIFE OF A CHRISTIAN) rollista get dressed. Palanca team to chapel.

Rollo Room

Prepare to light candles for SACRAMENTS


Prepare for chapel visits by kitchen.

ACTION rollista leaves lunch early to get dressed. Prayer palanca team to chapel.

Rollo Room

Prepare for table visits

Tripod should now have PIETY, STUDY legs showing on easel.

Put Action leg under the lectern.

Prepare to light candles for ACTION.

OBSTACLES TO GRACE rollista leaves to get dressed. Prayer palanca team to chapel.

Remove easel

Prepare to light candles for OBSTACLES.

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LEADERS rollista leaves to get dressed. Palanca team to chapel.

Prepare for serenaders.

Prepare to light candles for LEADERS

The serenaders will rehearse their songs inside the rollo room during dinner and then walk down the hall to the kitchen on the signal of the Rector, Head Cha or Assistant Head Cha.

Prepare for DECURIA after dinner.


Ready chapel for visit before and following Decuria

Rollo Room

Prepare for Decuria

Clean and straighten up for Sunday


Are all married candidateís spouse letter accounted for? Are any candidates "short" of palanca letters?



Set out communion elements.


Set up coffee pot and start

All Team(except unrevealed professors) serenade the candidates in bed.


Start background tape-play while people arrive for chapel

After chapel, clean chalice, start to pack

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STUDY OF THE ENVIRONMENT rollista leaves chapel early to get dressed. Prayer palanca team goes to chapel.

Rollo Room

Prepare to light candles for ENVIRONMENT

LIFE IN GRACE rollista leaves to get dressed. Prayer palanca team to chapel Have Growth Guides ready to hand out Prepare to light candles for LIFE IN GRACE.


Complete preparation of candidate/team palanca bags.

Head Cha

Have Fourth Day packets been received?

Rollo Room

CHRISTIAN COMMUNITY IN ACTION rollista leaves to get dressed. Prayer palanca team to chapel

Get Fourth Day signs ready: SEQUELA and PESCADORE

Prepare to light candles for CHRISTIAN COMMUNITY.


Rectorís spouse (if applicable) wait in the palanca room.


Prepare for table visits to dedicate Growth Guides.

Prepare crosses, and Growth Guides.

Rollo Room

Prepare to hand out Picture and Roster envelope. Head Cha to check for corrections to Roster.

Set up closing questions on podium in dining room.

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Complete packing equipment and supplies.

Assistant Head Cha collect all keys to the Camp of Colors for Weekend Couple.

Inspect all facilities for anything left behind

Return all tables, chairs and other equipment, food, etc. to their proper place.